Attending a Cremation: What to Expect and How to Cope


Attending a Cremation: What to Expect and How to Cope

The death of a loved one can invoke numerous emotions, including shock, confusion, and fear. After their passing, attending a cremation can leave lingering feelings. Knowing what to expect and how to cope with the cremation process can provide a sense of familiarity and comfort. 

What to Expect

1. Before the Ceremony

Before the cremation ceremony, it is important to understand your loved one’s wishes for their service. Depending on the request, there may be a private viewing beforehand that only family members may attend. You need to ask the funeral director to clarify viewing arrangements if this is a consideration. 

2. During the Ceremony

The cremation process can be intimidating and affect the attending family members and friends of the deceased differently. The procession of the body into the ceremonial room may be tear-jerking, and the coffin will be placed in front of the visitors. 

An order of service will be shared with those present if a minister is present. This can include readings, hymns, and other religious observations. Traditional cremations usually involve a single speaker or officiant but may also have family members in the service itself. 

After the funeral service is concluded and the coffin is taken for cremation, a time for private mourning may be available for family and friends.

3. After the Ceremony

In Scandinavian traditions, mourners are encouraged to leave the crematorium before the body enters the crematorium. This is to avoid witnessing the coffin going into the cremator, which may seem to wait too long and leave behind a feeling of incompleteness. Upon leaving the crematorium, there may be an area where family and friends can reflect and release the emotions they have experienced during the service. 

How to Cope

1. Have an Open Discussion

Talking about death and grief is uncomfortable for some but can be beneficial. An open discussion among friends and family can help you understand the bereavement journey. Discussing the passing of a loved one helps to normalize the feelings of grief and sadness and reminds the participants that they are not alone. 

2. Accept Support

Although it is a usual inclination to remain strong, opening up to those closest to you can be highly beneficial. Accepting support from family and friends who are mourning a similar loss is comforting. Support can come in all different forms, including emotional and physical. Friends and family can provide meals, errand services, and emotional talks when words won’t suffice. 

3. Allow Yourself to Grieve

If questioning how long grief should last arises, there is no right or wrong answer. Grief is necessary, and there is no set timeline. It is alright to take all the time to process and accept the loss. Not allowing yourself to grieve can prolong the bereavement period.


Attending the cremation of a loved one can be an overwhelming and emotional experience. Knowing what to expect and how to cope can help to make the experience easier to manage. You can do this by giving yourself space to process the emotions that come up, as well as practicing self-care to gain strength and comfort during this difficult time.

Ashes to Ashes Corporation is a compassionate and caring funeral home that provides support and guidance to those who have recently experienced a loss. We aim to help you find a way to cope with the grief that comes with losing a loved one. 

Our staff will guide you through the cremation process and make the arrangements for the funeral. Contact us for more details about our affordable cremation service.


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